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10 Reasons I should not be Dating him/her
Posted by: | CommentsThe following is a great post from Pastor PerryNoble.com.
#1 – They are not willing to fight FOR purity. (Trust me…if they won’t fight for purity with you before you are married then there is a greater chance they won’t fight for purity after you are married.)
#2 – If they are trying to get me to compromise with God’s Word says so clearly. (If they lead you away from God’s Word before marriage they will do so even more after marriage…the way they have lived in their past and the way they are living now are indicators of how they are going to live when they marry you. You cannot change them…you are NOT the Holy Spirit!)
#3 – If you are always defending him/her to the people who know me, love me and love Jesus. (Love is blind…and many times you cannot see the blind spots that others can see so clearly.)
#4 – If you find yourself not wanting to talk about him/her in front of the people in your life that you know may disapprove of the relationship for some reason. (Because…when this happens you are choosing to ignore what the Lord could be trying to make obvious through others because you are too involved emotionally to make a rational decision.)
#5 – If you know the relationship isn’t really going anywhere…but you don’t want to “break up” because doing so would cause you to be insecure because you have allowed yourself to be identified by who you are dating rather than who you are in Christ.
#6 – You find out that they are lying to you. If they lie to you before you are married then they will lie to you in marriage.
#7 – If you cannot confront them about issues without them losing their temper.
#8 – If you discover that they are unfaithful to you.
#9 – If something about them absolutely drives you insane…but you convince yourself that after you get married “that problem” will go away. (Actually…it’s won’t, it will get larger!)
#10 – If the Lord has specifically spoken to you and instructed you to end the relationship but you can’t/won’t because you either “don’t want to hurt them” or you fear that if you end this relationship then you won’t have another chance at one.
6 Lies I Believed in 2010, Pt.3
Posted by: | CommentsI am continuing a blog series entitled, “6 Lies I believed in 2010.” My goal is to identify the lies I unknowingly bought into during the past year, and that God has begun to deliver me from. I am sharing from the heart my greatest lessons of the year. Here are the final two and I believe these are potentially the most devastating if not unveiled and surrendered to Jesus. Here you go…
THE LIE #2…It hasn’t happened yet, so I guess it’s not going to happen.
THE TRUTH IS…a dream delayed does not equal a dream denied. Don’t bail before the breakthrough.
During the delay is when God is doing His greatest work IN YOU. And God must first do a work IN YOU before He can do a work THROUGH YOU. God is shaping your character during the delay, because it is THROUGH YOUR CHARACTER THAT GOD WILL ACCOMPLISH GREAT THINGS!
THE LIE #1…Being a successful pastor or an effective leader in the church means I get a FREE PASS at home.
My family won’t mind if I am gone most of the time because I am busy “doing ministry.”
THE TRUTH IS…My FIRST MINISTRY IS MY FAMILY.
Just because I am “doing my job” as a pastor or a church leader doesn’t mean I am modeling Christ in my home and showing my children how to love Jesus. In fact, I must first pastor my wife and my two little precious girls. ONLY THEN, am I fit to pastor God’s children in the local church. I am a pastor first to my family. I am a missionary first to my children. I am a counselor first to my wife. I am a ministry coach and cheerleader first to my two precious daughters.
When my girls get older I want them to not only think that Daddy loved them, but I want them to know that DADDY LOVED BEING WITH THEM. When my days on this planet are over, I want my wife to think back to the day I said, “I DO” and be able to say, “HE DID!”
I am not a “PASSIONATE CHRIST FOLLOWER” if I am not also a “PURSUING HUSBAND” to my wife and a “PRESENT FATHER” to my children!
