I’m Sexually Frustrated, Pt.5
ByIf we want to move from sexual frustration to sexual fulfillment then we must…
Embrace the fact that GOD MADE US TO BE COMPLEMENTARY
So God created human beings in His own image. In the image of God He created them; male and female He created them. (Genesis 1:27 NLT)
So often, when speaking to couples whose marriage is on the rocks, and they are at each other’s throats and they are contemplating the “D” word; I will hear them say, “Well, we are just so different.”
WELL, YEAH, THAT IS KIND OF THE POINT, YOU ARE A MAN, SHE IS A WOMAN. God made you that way, God made you to be different, not for competition, but to be complementary. You complete one another. As married people we need to stop competing with one another and start completing one another, after is the meaning of “the two shall become one flesh.”
Guys, if you wanted someone who liked it when you played Madden 2010 in your underwear all day, you should have just moved in with your college roommate. Ladies, if you wanted someone who would be overly emotional and sympathetic about “everything” and enjoyed doing the dishes then you should have just moved in with his mom instead;-)
We’re obviously different……..and I believe we need to recognize that it is by divine design. God planned it that way. He intended our differences to be complementary, not competitive! If I don’t understand the complementary role of my wife, I’m going to expect her to think like a man and vice versa.
One of the basic differences between men and women is in this area of sex; 43% of women tend to think about sex once a week, while men tend to think about sex on a daily basis. If women had the same sex drive as men, nothing would ever get done in this world!
~ For women, if there is not a good relationship, then there is not good sex.
~ For men, good sex makes for a good relationship.
This is where the hormonal differences come in to play. Men are pretty loaded down with testosterone and are visually stimulated. If the environment is right and a few signals are given or perceived as given, they’re good to go…….
Women on the other hand have more oxytocin flowing within them….well what the heck is that? ………….It’s the hormone that is very active when breastfeeding and creates attachment or connection. Oxytocin is the hormone that creates a bond between mother and her child.
~ Women need to feel connected before they want to be intimate sexually. Men feel more connected after they’ve been intimate. They get all conversational and sensitive.
HERE”S A GENERAL NUGGET OF TRUTH!
~ A man wants to have sex to feel close.
~ A woman wants to feel close to have sex.
Remember, God intended our differences to be complimentary, not competitive.
The goal of marriage is not simply to have all my needs met, but to act in Christ likeness so that the two may become one.
If missed this talk you can listen online at http://www.thedialoguechurch.com/?p=3203.
